I Curse Thee!!

How often do you hear people say if something bad happen to you it's because you have done wrong sometime in the past, and God is teaching you a lesson.

I've heard that since I understood the meaning of Heaven and Hell. The Judgment Day, Sirratul Mustaqim and Al-Mizan.

I am in now way saying that they are wrong to say what they said. After all, we grew up learning the same things about our religion right? What I'm trying to say is that, instead of being judgmental of the whole situation and risking sounding as if the Almighty is being vindictive, can't we just approach the whole bad situation in a different way?

You might say that I'm writing this because I'm being emotional, what with losing handphone and digital camera out of my own carelessness. Well, maybe. But that is not the main reason.

Everytime something bad is reported on the news or when hearing not nice things happening to certain people, almost everyone that I know would say, something along the same line. "They deserve it". "Because they are deviants!". "Bad things happen to bad people". I'm sure you have heard the variations of it.

I accept and believe when we are faced with certain challenges, when we are drowned in sorrow those are among the many ways of God communicating with us.

Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is good to remind each other that God is communicating His love to us by small little hiccups in our lives but not showing His wrath and displeasure. What happened to Luth's clan, to Noah's clan and Moses's people, those were the result of His wrath and displeasure.

Before we start to say something the next time something bad happened to someone, maybe we should pause and plan our words. After all that person just went through a difficult ordeal or loss, we are not doing any good by reminding him or her about bad deeds and behaviour.

Many a times in our lives, we are always reminded of His anger and not His love. I don't believe this is a good way to portray our serene religion. If we don't think before we say, we would sound as if we're holier than others.

Just because we pray five times a day, it does not make us better than the person who only prays once a day. Just because we give to charity does not mean others don't. Just because we don't go to clubs does not mean we're heading to Heaven. The only one who can be judgemental is the judge Himself. And He's sitting up there on his Arasy.

When it comes to matters between a person and the Almighty, couldn't we just leave it between them to sort it out? And if our intentions are good in terms of reminding each other of the good and bad things, can we actually do it without adopting the "holier than thou" attitude.

I ask you now, how would you feel after losing someone or something valuable, or involve in an accident? You feel sad and sorry for yourself and you would want someone to talk to so that you can be consoled, right?

How would you feel then when the person you're talking to says that what happened happened as a reminder of your sins?

You would be lying if you say you just nod with agreement without any resentment...

Unless of course, you're a saint.

UPDATE: Someone wise told me that when she lost something, it was because she mistook something that was not hers so God takes something from her. I like this. The balancing concept. Very apt and very true. And hey, it makes me feel better already!!