Friendship

What exactly do you expect from this ship that we share? We go through ups and downs, year after year together. I have cried on your shoulder, and you have cried on mine. We have shared barrels of laughter. We sang, okay I sang more, but we have enjoyed beautiful music together. We ever groove when the mood calls for it. So what else do you want from me?

Tolerance? I'm sure we share that too, judging by the sighing and mellowing and whining that we do. We, each had our ears built with whine-resistance. In fact we share anger too.

But, don't you think it's time for us to grow up? That does not mean I love you less. It's just mean we need space between us. Because we've grown up and we make our own choices. No more wearing the same shade of skirt when we're going out or making sure we synchronise our theme for the day. We are each an individual. And although we grew up loving the same things, playing similar pranks, we each blossom in our own special way.

We are equal, you and I. We are the same, but never similar. But truth be told, I've always wondered. Why do you expect people around you to treat you like a royalty? Like you're more special than anyone else? Perhaps you should stop and think for a while... That while you want us to always be together, we are indeed individuals and would like to be treated as such?

Perhaps one of the most complicated relationship is being friends. There are certain lines that cannot be crossed to preserve pleasant and meaningful journey. It's actually something like being a couple, except that this relationship most often than not involve more than two people.

But then again, if you're true friends, why can't you speak the truth, right? Just because the truth might hurt our friend's feelings. We are hypocrites, you and I, especially to our loved ones. We rarely say the truth for fear of hurting. While that is true, and ignorance is bliss, to what extend can we tolerate that thing that makes us feel like pulling our hairs out?

Fear, at the end, dominates the relationship. Fear of hurting. Fear of losing. Because without friends we are basically nothing. Because at the end of the day, we do not want to be left out or left alone. Because we need companionship. Because we are social beings and we need to have the comfort of knowing that we are not alone.

Yes, of course, you will say, you will never be alone because there's one friend that will always be there no matter what, if only you take that time to remember Him. True. And I agree. But we're just humans after all. We still need that physical contact, physical presence. Unless of course, we have cross that line where worldly treats are no more a passion. Yes, there are people who couldn't care less whether they have friends or not.

But honestly? You and I? We still need to board this ship. But maybe, just maybe, we cannot expect too much from this ship. Because after all... when it reaches its final destination we might have to disembark, whether we want it or not.