July 3, 2008

Still on cloud nine apparently...

"Love just is."

One important message that I get after reading Witch of Portobello. Well, besides being true to yourself and be who you're supposed to be. But today, lets again talk about love.

I have always known that in a relationship we make the future. There is such thing as fate and qadr, but we make the conscious choice whether it will work out or not.

Long time ago, which seemed like another lifetime, someone told me that he hoped that I was his constant future. At 18, that sounded so brazenly romantic. Ha ha ha... It turned out to be, I made the decision to be in his future, but he did not do the same thing. So, we ended. Dem. 18. So young. So naive. So innocent.

Anyway, life goes on. More promises made and broken, and few more heartbreaks. And today, I'm here making the decision to be constant again. This time around, as it has always been before, I hope the other half also make the same choice.

After saying all that, love just is. There's this unexplainable feeling of content and happiness. That little something that makes you just want to smile. That lingering breath that makes you thankful to the Almighty that you live to experience this wonderous joy. And because your feet are firmly on the ground, knowing, this is real life and not a fairy tale, it's just even sweeter.

There are times that I do feel like screaming in frustration, because a man, end of the day, is just a man after all. They do not have the capacity to really grasp the meaning of life. Or love, for that matter. But you can never say that he does not care or love you. He does. In his own way. You just cannot expect them to love the way we do, the way women do. If you do that, you'll definitely go lesbian. He he he... Seriously.

Love is. As much as corny it sounds, it's true. Ask anyone you know, who are still together. They have fights too, they have their share of disagreements and sour faces. They turned cold shoulders once a while and just wish their partners leave them alone for a day. But, underneath all that, they remember they love. They just have to remember what they decided that day when they looked in each other's eyes, and say, you're the one for me and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. And God willing, the hereafter too. Lovely isn't it?

And the day you decide to say the same thing to someone, mean it. And bask in its joy. Love just is. Bottom line, we make the decision for the relationship to work or not. There's no two way about it. You decide to be with the person, it's just natural you'd be the one to decide otherwise. How lame can we be, when God bestowed upon us the knowledge and wisdom to make choices, but we decide to blame other external factors when things go wrong.

So today, make a conscious decision. Tell your partner something nice, something truthful. And if you're still on your own, no partner to mess with your head, just tell yourself something nice, something truthful. Because, love just is.

B, I love you. :-)

p.s: who gets to decide that honeymoon period needs to be over anyway? :-p

10 comments:

The Momster said...

maintain the three little words everyday in life, and the simple gesture of running his hand through your hair, and holding your hand while driving, i'm sure the honeymoon doesn't have to end. *winks*

Sky Angel said...

love is all around....

Sarclover said...

mine's just begun. but its different now... its like i dont really care if it goes down the drain. what will happen will happen and there's nothing one could do about it.

well babeh... you know me.

Hajar said...

n|ns: sometimes, just the way he looks at me... knees become gooey.. muahahaha...

sky angel: it definitely is, eh... ;-)

Hajar said...

sarcy: actually... different is good. :-D

Anonymous said...

u will feel that u r flying in the sky when u r in love...
but u will feel that u r in hell if its in trouble...
one thing i heard from radio..

"cintai atau sayangi org2 disekeliling kita.. insya-allah.. persaan itu.. akan dtg blk kt kita nanti"..

so..do love people around u.. even though they will not love u... hehhe

gravtkills said...

i love my mommmy and yes my daddy too

Hajar said...

6ky angel: aha...

gravt: i love them too.. urmm.. my parents, i mean. hehe...

all jazzed up said...

love is love is nothing without youuuuuuuuuu........

gosh, im so glad it's friday jade.

Hajar said...

jazzy: you and i, babe. ;-)