Closure

"You know I care for you a lot"
"It would have been more if we were in a different situation"

How often do you come across this statement? I have many friends who are/were at the receiving end, including yours truly. And most of the times the reason is timing.

Two people can get along perfectly. Enjoy each other’s company tremendously. Spend hours talking and laughing about anything and everything all night and still has something to talk about tomorrow. The same people can admit that they like each other. But the same people will replay the conversation above.

Reason? It could be absolutely anything under the sun.

It could be that one is going off somewhere to work and don’t really believe in long distance relationship. It might be one could not be tied down because they don’t want the restrictions. It could be because one of them is attached, might be both. It could be because of odd working condition, long hours, less time for each other. It could be because of fear of heartbreak. It could also be because one of them is homosexual.

So, what do we do when this happen? How do we react when we are at the receiving end? Do you say “Thank you” because the other person care so much? Or do you say “Tough luck” because the timing is not right. Or would you say “Your loss” because you know that you’ll be the best thing ever happen to that person and vice versa.

But wouldn’t it be sad that nothing can be done to salvage the almost-relationship? It might be that once in a lifetime occurrence. In some cases, yes, there’s nothing we can do about it. But if it’s not because of other attachments or sexual orientations, there must be something that we can do. Right?

Probably, at the end of the day, it’s just depending on how much in to each other these two people are. Probably she’s not that into you. Probably he’s not that much into you. Maybe when the question is asked, the two people realize that it’s not exactly what they have in mind. Probably at the end of the day, we just want to have fun and get that adrenaline rush and the endorphins produced.

Wouldn’t it be more honest to say this:-

“It’s been fun while it lasted. Now it’s time to move on.”

But we don’t. Instead we butter our words and sprinkle some sugar on top serve with honey to soften the blow. Aaaahh… And both parties part feeling good.

Case closed.