Hmm... Really?

Frankly, I don't believe men's hearts bleed. A gay man yes. A straight man? Ha ha ha. Gelakkan mereka!

A heartbroken woman?
Yes.
A heartbroken straight man?
WOOOOOO I just saw two pigs fly.
Oink oink oink oink.


Now, you have to understand that this is not a man-bashing post. I just find the above remarks by Dina Zaman really… entertaining.

Why do men have to be gay to be sensitive? I really don’t get that. Is it so awful to be in touch with your softer side? Work with me on this. Although some may say that this is just a waste of time, but I will like to put the record straight. Of course with your help. It’s merely a little quest of understanding each other better.

At the end, we might not agree with each others’ opinion, but we could always agree to disagree and find a common ground some where. So, shall we?

Men, generally, refused to be known for their… ability to be lovey-dovey. Consequently to date we have several different groups of men. So far, to my limited circle of friends, they can be grouped to the following:

• Men – Men in this group are known for their kick-ass attitude. The cry game doesn’t work here. It is said that these are the ‘real’ men. (Duhh...)
• Metrosexuals – This group of people take good care of their appearances. They might be mistaken for the next group. They are also known for their gentlemanly behaviours. Some could be too clingy.
• Gays – These are the ‘happy’ people. They definitely take good care of themselves. Easily bumped into at your local health clubs. Some are easily recognized for their… look-at-me-I’m-gay attitude. Some will be easily mistaken to be straight.
• Softies – They are not homosexuals. They are just overly in-touched with their softer nature. It could be annoying at times. Most of the times they talk too much.

Most of my lady friends would be glad to date metrosexuals. Nothing gives us more pleasure than to be seen with someone who, if not handsome, takes good care of his appearance. You see, looks department are not really compulsory. Metrosexuals can be good listeners, so it’s very refreshing to be able to have ‘meaningful’ conversation with them. They listen to us whining. They might be cringing inside, but they are too gentlemen to say “shut the trap, woman!” Of course, they do it subtly, by offering advises that consequently shut us up. On the bright side, men who fall in this category do not mind intelligent women. However, they also most of the times think that they are too good for certain people. You see, they have this I’m-far-above-you attitude.

Men in men group mostly are traditionalist. Although women welcome the macho side of a men, but being patriarchal is not a turn-on factor. They like their woman to listen, and not talk back, do the housework and serve them. Only. They are the I’m-the-king-you’re-my-subjects people. Some of them turn out to be alright, others should be locked in asylum. There are women who do not mind to be on the receiving end all the time. Being instructed day-in-day-out. Women who are easily contented. Or just plain lazy to think and let the men do everything. Women who choose to keep the peace and not stir the otherwise calm water.

I shall not talk about gays and softies. One is too clinical the other; let’s just say I prefer my man to protect me, not the other way around.

To say that all straight men don’t feel heartbroken might be too extreme. I’m diplomatic that way. However, most of them move on very easily. They could be breaking up today, but seen with another girl tomorrow, and the next thing you knew they are already a couple. Women on the other hand, tend to linger longer when it comes to the matters of the heart. Maybe we are programmed that way. Destined to be loyal even if the partner is not. And women have always been known to sacrifice a lot for the relationship. Be it dating or married. Or even, divorced.

Maybe because it’s part of our culture. Men are allowed to venture to anything, be everything and anything. Do whatever their hearts desire. Women are restricted. These days, of course, we can see the norm is changing bit by bit. But we still have a long way to go.

Coming back to the earlier point. Do men feel heartbreak? Straight men.