Come and Get Me - Part 2

It took me some time to collect more facts to continue the second part of my hearty rendition on how to court the genteel other half. (Read Part 1)

1. You are not the Hare and I am not the Tortoise
Remember that there is no competition between the two of us. If I do better in something, you don't have to go head-to-head trying to prove that you can do much better. Accept that there are things that your lady can do as well, if not better. We should strive to be the best together; after all we are a TEAM. We should learn from each other. If your girl gets to go out more to have night caps with her friends and you can't; that does not mean you're less a man to her. Duh.

2. You already have a Mother
Enough said. No, wait, you won't understand that. What this means is that, don't expect your other half to baby you all the time. She's is your partner, thus lamenting how cruel the world is to you day-in, day-out is not acceptable. You after all, should be her protector and, ehem, saviour, so to speak. BUT this does not mean she does not expect you to share your fears and worries with her. There is a line between partnering and mothering.

NOTE: To those whose Mommy has gone to better place, it is still applicable, sorry about that...

3. Take care of your CAR
Don't act surprise. Some of the gents out there do not take good care of their car. At worst they can be worse than women. I kid you not. Their excuse is that the machine does its job by taking them from point A to point B. This is not a commendable action. She can ride a motor kapchai with you, but not a JUNK.

On this note also, yes we expect you to do the plumbing even when we know we can do it ourselves. Yes, we want you to replace that burnt bulb. Yes, do wash our cars when you wash yours. Hey... we put your laundry in the washing machine, didn't we? And probably fold it too. You get the drift...

4. Don't be absent for a year...
... then tell her that you love her and you realise she is better than your long term girlfriend (whom you're still sleeping with, by the way). Even if she does have feelings for you, she really does not know whether to feel happy or insulted. Besides, if you really love her, shouldn't you have ended it with your girlfriend first before approaching her? A real man would do that. Otherwise, it looks as if you're playing it safe. I wouldn't say a wimp exactly, but... well, you get the idea.

5. Above all...
... what we, ladies, really want is for you to care. Call and ask how our day was. When we come back home late and could not prepare your bed time milk, maybe you should just make it yourself. Or if we say that our body is aching, surprise us with a voucher for spa treatment. We are essentially simple creatures. We just want you to care. We might be super women at work or mighty moms to the kids or greatest girlfriends. In a nutshell, we are still women who want our men to be men. Oh, when we say we love you, we really do. It does not matter if we're earning more than you or you're shorter than us. He he he... We have agreed to commit to you, it means, we want to grow old with you.


Okay lah. I shall end the list here. I'm not an expert, just my two sen to share with you. Hope it's useful. And no, this is not meant for debate topic (you'd lose anyway, so why bother, eh? He he he...).