October 9, 2006

Two and a half cents

You know this one email about true love, where a guy was so nervous on his first date, he asked for salt instead of sugar for his coffee. The conversation started and they ended up getting married. The wife prepared the husband's coffee always with salt instead of sugar. Only when the husband died, she found out the truth.

The ending part of this email is what prompted me to write this post. I'm going to share it with you.
Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of
how
much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

Basically what it says, it's worth the wait. Do not settle. And that brings me to this other email that I received long time ago.

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT.............


But sometimes love just work mysteriously. And when you don't have two steady feet, that's when you stumble. We are adults. We can think. Love is much more than just finding that special someone. It's to find someone to grow old with. Someone to have conversation with. Because at the end of the day, when beauty fades, when bones bent, when there are only two of you at the balcony of your massive bungalow, laughter and meaningful talks are what matters.

So if anyone say I'm choosy, yeah, I am!

7 comments:

Nour said...

Hi Jade,

I know what you mean! This particular scene happened to me when I was hanging out with a few colleagues, and one particular lady who is my age was talking about her three kids and all. And there I was just listening. Suddenly out of no where she turned and asked me.. how come u are still single??....ni mesti picky!! I just smiled..coz deep down inside I believe marriage or finding that right someone is never easy...it is not about choosing a handbag ...you can't just grab anyone you meet. It is a lifetime commitment!

Azer Mantessa said...

wow ... a good checking list :-)

vedd said...

Agreed with azer. But I doubt to find such a person anytime soon :)

I did make a checklist of my dream woman before, but in the end... well let's just say that I'm very much inlove with the one that I'm married with :D

-v-

Hajar said...

nour: patience is a virtue! hehe..

AM & vedd: tis not checklist lah.. just something to think about. there's no such thing as ideal man or ideal woman. no one is perfect.

The Momster said...

give those who says u r picky a knock on the head!!

u r supposed to be picky. we're talking about a lifetime commitment here.

D.N.A.S said...

Yeah girls,
take your time to choose. This is much more complicated than finding a pair of good shoes.

Hajar said...

nahlah: very true!

dnas: exactly my sentiment! even when buying shoes or handbags you take a long time to choose, right?