June 12, 2007

E to the G to the O

EGO is a funny thing. That is if you feel broken relationship, miscommunication, destroyed friendships are hilarious.

Observe the following scenarios...

1. An old timer on a subject is a type of person who likes people asking questions and said old timer's opinion. Let's call this old timer, OT. OT likes to feel important. OT is an emotional person. OT can be really involved with the work that OT is doing. OT expects new comers to come and ask questions rather than OT gives everything on silver platter.

2. New comers on the subject. Let's call them NCs. NCs are no strangers to the field of work. However NCs are new to the subject. Sometimes when you are new to something you don't even know where to begin, what to ask. Because you are not familiar with the subject. And most of the time you wait for people to feed you the information.

3. Another new comer who handles the people and the subject. Let's call this one the PM. Lacking on PM's side makes things go haywire and out of control. PM also have no clear picture of the subject thus might have made things worse rather than better.

Suffice to say, all this three scenarios are related, tightly. But things have gone out of proportion. Ego is bruised. Of egoism no questions asked. Egoistically handled, everything went out of hand.

OT chose to keep quiet and not giving input. NCs are clueless and confused, yet hesitate to take the first steps. While PM basically have no control on the issue.

I know it seems like a trivial issue, but it happens, every day, everywhere. And the sad thing is because things could have work beautifully if it was not for the huge EGO that everyone has. Miscommunication could have been avoided in earlier state if NCs immediately do something to clear few misunderstandings. To expect OT to understand would be a little difficult especially when NCs and PM knew one another long before.

Conflict of interest, I guess. Anyway, as an onlooker, we could only hope things work out for the best.

I still believe that EGO when managed correctly can be used to the best of everything. But then again, that's just me, eh?

Have a lovely Tuesday, friends and foes. ;-)

1 comment:

Suraya said...

biasala yang. manusia ni semua ada ego, male or female alike. but sometimes we have to brush it off, pejam mata sebelah and just do what we have to do. i've overused my ego way too many times and learned my lesson the hard way.