August 8, 2005

There is no goodbye

No, there isn't.

The fact remains that, even if we verbally say goodbye, our hearts and minds do not. So, how could it be a goodbye.

I said goodbye to yesterday, but the memory remains until today. The acts, the words, the results, the tears, could still be recalled in a moment of weakness. It's called back whenever thoughts flying wildly and uncontrollably back to yesterdays, yesteryears.

There is definitely no definite goodbye. For memory stays. Consciously, subconsciously. There is no running away from the memories. It's like a permanent ink. The only way to make it disappear, is to brutally, ruthlessly remove it. And it leaves a depthless scar.

People come and go in our lives. For reasons that most of the time, we don't understand. Or not willing to understand. Change is necessary, for without it, we are stagnant. No growth. No improvement. We might wither away for being the same place for so long.

Time and time again, we are knocked senseless directly or indirectly by someone, something, to move forward and make a change. To step outside the comfort zone and risk everything. But more often than not, we rather bruise than risk losing a limb. We play it safe. We stay put.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with wanting to stay put. Be contented with what is, then risk for what might. It's okay, because life is good. And, there's no shame in not wanting it to be better.

What's wrong is, when we expect other people to do the same. Some people are just not born copycats. Or clones. They want to build the new path. And what is, is just not enough. Because they know they can get better. That does not mean, they forget their roots. Although some, might lose their way in the course of striving for greatness. All these are the result of the foundation. If the foundation is strong enough, there is no way, the roots will be forgotten. Besides, how can the root, something that is vital for living be put aside, locked somewhere, never to be retrieved again? That's just not right. Live cannot continue.

We need to open our mind. If we are willing to stay where we are, we should accept the possiblity that other people might want to go beyond where they are. There is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong in wanting to be different. As long as different is still right. But then again, who are we to say what's wrong and right, when the ultimate is up to the One? We should refrain from acting like we have the ultimatum. We don't. We keep on growing until the day, He decides to call us back. Until that day comes, we should not stop our steps, rise higher if we can, be different if we must. Live life fully. Because at the end of the day, there is only one person to be accountable to that life we're living. Ourselves. No one else.

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